Wednesday, April 09, 2014

Wedding Nightmares!

Background Story


When I was a high school senior, the cool thing was to have a graduation party.  My friends and I all coordinated our graduation parties so that none of them would overlap and we could go to each party.  My friends all had their parties and mine was last.  It was up at the beach at my dad's cabin and I couldn't wait!  The morning of the party was pleasant - a warm June day.  
This slowly turned into a little breezy
Which turned into a lot breezy
Which turned into a complete thunderstorm

Needless to say, NONE of my friends showed up.  Not only did they not show up, but they didn't even call to say they wouldn't come.  I had two guests - which I am thankful for! - but we planned on a much larger turnout.  

Joke was on me.


To this day, I have not had another party.  I am terrified I'll have my friends RSVP then play a practical joke and not show up.  My mom had to surprise me with a 21st birthday party with family because I refused to have one.  College graduation parties?  Out of the question!  I refuse to ever plan any other birthday party or event, because I remember how crushed I felt the day of my graduation party when not a single person showed up who said they would.

So for the past 9 years I have not hosted a single event for myself.  Until now - my wedding.

And you can imagine how terrified I am that no one will show up.  I'll go through a ton of effort and get my hopes up, just to be left at the altar by myself.

Since October-ish, this is what my dreams have consisted of.  Almost every night I have dreams where:
  • I forgot to send out invites
  • The flowers didn't show
  • My guests didn't show
  • My bridesmaids forgot to come
  • No one booked the band
  • I lost my dress
  • Etc etc etc

After posting this on Facebook, I quickly found out I'm not alone!  I thought it was my FEAR of parties, but turns out I'm not the only one who has these nightmares!

I think whenever anyone pours their time, money, and emotions into an event we want it to be as perfect as possible, so it's common to worry about the "what-if's" of the world.  But goodness if these nasty little "what-if's" could leave me and my dreams alone, I'd greatly appreciate it :-)

Does anyone else have wedding nightmares?!
Love Always, Nancy J

Friday, April 04, 2014

Mom Update

Wow - I cannot believe the amount of support our family has received these past couple of weeks.  What's even more impressive is the amount of people that truly care for my mom and are sending their positive thoughts and prayers!!  You can find the story here about my moms accident.

Mom has had two good days (in a row!) which is SUCH a relief!  Now that she had her tracheotomy she seems more comfortable and able to relax.  My brother even posted a picture with her now that he's helping her read her new Book Club book.  She may hate me for posting this on my bloggy, but I'll deal with that later ;-)  

It's hopeful that mom will eventually walk again, however she has a long road to recovery and we are focused on getting her body healthy and happy so we can start the rehabilitation process.

Caring Bridge

For more updates on mom, please visit her caringbridge site at:

There you will be able to post guestbook comments (that she LOVES!) and get more up-to-date updates on her status.

Meal Train

And for Reno folk, to help with a meal train for John while he spends his time in the hospital with my mom, please visit the below link:

Thank you all for caring so much!!!


Monday, March 31, 2014

Prayers for my mom

Goodness, where do I start?

I struggled with whether or not to write anything about this.  Sometimes personal matters are just that: personal.  
Sometimes family matters need to stay between families.

But this is so much more than that.  And as my bloggy friends know, blogging is an outlet. 
--Taylor Swift writes songs--
--Miley shaves her head--
--I retreat to my bloggy--

My mother was seriously injured in a freak accident.  The perky tan little lady that I call "mom" was vacationing in Cabo San Lucas and lounging by the pool with her friend on their first day of their vacation.  Somewhere along the lines, someone left a hot tub cover unclipped on the 3rd floor of the resort.  The wind caught the cover and blew it hard enough into my mom's head that it snapped her neck in 2 places.

She was rushed to the hospital and received emergency surgery as she was far too critical to transport back to the states.  However, we now have her back in the states and I write my little bloggy post from a mini-recliner in an ICU room listening to pumps of the breathing tube, and beeps from her heart monitor. 

She's now a quadriplegic.  
Suffering from paralysis in all four limbs.

She can move her feet and wiggle some fingers.  We are fortunate that she's such a healthy person (does it get more healthy than ultra marathoners?).  However even she's having difficulties keeping her lungs strong and her body relaxed. 

My mom is the world's sweetest, happiest person.  If anyone ever has anything to say about mom, it's always, "She's the happiest person I've ever met!"  This isn't fair that she was injured simply by laying by the pool.  None of this is fair. 

My mom runs as her form of therapy
She's an ultramarathon runner
An avid Yogi
And a health fanatic

Her life will forever be different and my heart breaks for her.

Please send your prayers and good thoughts to my sweet little mom.  She needs them more than anything right now.

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Honeymoon Booked!

It's official friends, we've booked our honeymoon!! 

In September, Aaron and I will be traveling to....


You guys have no idea what a "WIN" this is.  For starters, we argued for a good 2-3 months about where we wanted to go.

Aaron wanted rugged/hiking/backpacking/hosteling/adventure
I wanted relaxing/foreign/fun/culture

We went back and forth, and every conversation ended in me saying, "I'm not going on a honeymoon!!"

Compromise, people, compromise.

I've wanted to go to Greece for as long as I remember.  Greece, and building-an-orphanage-in-Africa, have really been my biggest passions.  My Grammy went to Greece when I was younger, and when she came back she couldn't stop talking about how beautiful it was and what a great time she had.

Well if my Grammy loved it then so will I.  So I decided then that I, too, would go to (and love) Greece.  In fact, I still wear a ring on my right hand that my Granny (not to be confused with "Grammy") purchased while she was in Greece.

Long story short - I'm obsessed with Greece.

So I was ECSTATIC when Aaron found an amazing deal for us to travel to my dream location.  We were able to pay for the entire trip so we dove all in and bought the vacation package!

We'll be spending 3 days in Mykonos, 3 days in Santorini, and 2 days in Athens.

ECSTATIC doesn't even begin to describe how I'm feeling about our trip!!

This will be the first trip Aaron and I have taken that doesn't involve camping, car-camping, trail mix, no-showers, sleeping bags, etc.


Have any of you been to Greece?  Any recommendations or suggestions?!  I'm all ears.

Love Always Nancy J

Monday, February 17, 2014

Weekend Updates!

Do you ever have those weekends where it's cold and rainy so sometimes it's easier to stay inside than do anything?

Aaron now has Saturday off work (hashtag PoliceProblems) so we've been struggling with what to do on rainy Portland weekends now that we actually get to see each other!

So Aaron's brother was in town this weekend which was a nice way to force us out of the house and do what Portlandian's do best:   
Drink Beer

This weekend was Portland's annual Zwickelmania.  Since Aaron always works Saturday's we've never been able to go.  So not only did we get to go but we got to share all of the fun microbreweries with his brother!

.... and by "all" I mean we were done after 2 beers.  His brother even got to see my allergy to alcohol take over my face and body.


Dateless in Dallas

Friday, February 14, 2014

Happy Friday and Valentines Day!

While I'd love to say my main squeeze and I have some hot plans for tonight, we don't.  It's not about the plans, it's not about the flowers, it's a lovely February Day to remind us to say, "I Love You" to those we care about.

... it's also an excuse to eat tons of chocolate and candy hearts and get through your Friday with a sugar high...

Via Instagram

Helene in Between

Wednesday, February 05, 2014

Engagement Photos!

Now that we've shared our favorite engagement photos with our family and friends, I thought it was time I share them with my bloggy world too :-)

Last time I only shared a couple of photos ("sneak peak" if you will) so here are more photos from such a fun photo shoot!

Some fun facts:
  • Aaron had more outfit changes than I did
  • My 93 year old Grandma made the quilt in our photos
  • The shoot was in Northern Washington (Mt. Baker Wilderness)
  • Our photographers were the most FUN photographers EVER!  

Hope you all like them!

My Life as Ashley Cray


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